Last time, I taught you how to “just say no” – the ninth stress management technique of 10 that I’m writing about. This is the 10th and final technique in this series.
The purpose of this Stress Management Technique is to learn to:
- choose battles you have a chance of winning.
- practice peacefulness whenever you can.
- accept things you can’t change.
If you feel controlled by your circumstances in a particular situation – a traffic jam, a life-threatening disease – it’s important to assess whether you have alternatives (such as a different route or an alternative therapy) or whether there’s nothing you an do to alter the circumstances. If the latter, you need the serenity to accept that you can do nothing to change your situation.
Try the following to help yourself achieve that serenity:
- Take two slow, deep belly breaths and think of something beautiful in your life.
- Remind yourself that to solve the problem, you need serenity and wisdom, not anger or despair.
- Ask yourself, “If I can’t change this situation, what can I do to make peace with it?”
- Fully accept your life in body, mind and spirit.
- Trying to change a situation that isn’t in your control leads to frustration.
- When you feel frustrated and continue to argue with things that can’t be changed, you feel helpless and angry.
- Your mind and body suffer when you get angry.
- Feeling less frustration allows you to focus on the things you do that might make a difference – if not to the circumstances, then at least to your response.
Use this Technique when:
- you find yourself getting frustrated by a situation that won’t go away.
- you find yourself getting frustrated by a friend’s or family member’s irritating behavior.
- you have a financial setback.
- you don’t get the promotion you feel you deserve.
- you’re trying to cope with a chronic illness.
- you’re experiencing changed circumstances, such as retirement or a move.
- someone you love dies.
“ACCEPT WHAT YOU CAN’T CHANGE” STRESS MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUE:
In the words of the Serenity Prayer, “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
I hope this journey has been enlightening for you and of great help dealing with your stress. If you have any comments or questions, please contact me on my facebook page – Superior Organized Solutions.
My new series will be starting within the next few weeks so watch for the launch of that on youtube, facebook and my website.
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