Last week, I taught you how to “smile because you care” – the seventh stress management technique of 10 that I’m writing about. How are you doing? Not all of these techniques will work for everyone. You need to try each one and see which ones work for you.
The purpose of this Stress Management Technique is to learn to:
- recognize when what you’re doing is not successful and to stop.
- try new strategies that may have better results.
When faced with a difficult challenge:
- Shift your attention fully to your belly.
- Take at least two slow, deep breaths into and out of your belly.
- Then fill your mind with an image of someone you love.
- Hold the positive feelings that emerge in the area around your heart.
- When calm, ask yourself if the way you’ve handled the problem so far has worked.
- If the answer is no, ask the relaxed part of you for a new solution to the problem.
- Feeling stressed isn’t your major problem; it’s your frustration over not knowing what will solve your difficulty.
- You will never know which solutions work if you keep repeating ones that don’t.
- Have patience: it can take time to discover what is successful.
- Getting stressed over and over makes you feel helpless.
- Solutions that don’t work add a second problem – a bad solution – to the first problem of a difficult situation.
Use this Technique when:
- you’re frustrated.
- you feel that you’ve tried everything.
- you’re bored with your life.
- people say you need to change.
- you’re judging yourself harshly as a failure.
- you have a bad habit.
“STOP DOING WHAT DOESN’T WORK” STRESS MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUE:
When what you’re doing isn’t working, calm down and find a better solution.
Next Tuesday (June 26th), I’ll be talking about the ninth Stress Management Technique – how to “Just Say No”.
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