Although you can’t always change the situation, you can change how you think about it.
Let’s consider some different types of stressors and how best to approach managing them. For each type, think about the degree to which you might be better off working to change the situation itself, versus changing the way you think about the situation.
Work- and School- Related Stressors
Do you spend more time at work (or school) than at home? Many people do. And for most of us, these are very important parts of our lives. So, it’s not surprising that they can be major sources of stress. It turns out that you might be able to change (or at least try to change) some work or school stressors. If, for example, you have flexible supervisors or teachers, it might be possible to get extra help, a break on a work project, or deadline extensions for turning work in. But if your supervisor or teacher is less flexible, you might not catch such breaks even if you ask. If you’re having problems with budgeting your time, you can learn time management skills. If studying for exams stresses you out, you could attend a study skills session or find a tutor. Are you stressed about disagreements, office politics, peer pressure, or other interpersonal issues with supervisors, coworkers, peers, or teachers? [Read more…] about You Can’t Always Change a Situation